"after two divorces for adultary - both times I was the innocent party!"
isn't it possible that if onoe partner does not COMMIT adultry, they might have been involved in (allowing) the choice in some way...not always being there for their partner, etc. as Greg Brown says "if you don't get it at home, you're gonna go looking...."
that is not always the case, but "innocence" and "guilt" are not always
in black and white..there are many shades of grey/gray/