open mike I disagree that you can claim the victim in a case of adultery can be partially guilty. Even if there are problems at home, even if both people are not handling the situation well, that isn't an excuse to commit adultery. There are plenty of other options. What your saying is kind of like claiming that by wearing skimpy clothing a women was asking to be raped, so it's her fault. If someone makes me mad and I hurt someone or break something, the fault is entirely mine, despite the fact that they made me mad. Same thing goes here, if my spouse isn't giving me what I want, finding it somewhere else is still entirely my own doing and my own responsibilty.