Never stick with a doc who says, "Well we're just going to have to go in there and take a look!" Generally, this actually means, "Prepare to be violated."

(WE are not going IN anywhere!) (You can't send postcards from "there"!)

The proper reply (as one exits the table) might be, "I might have LET you look inside me, but inside me is not a PLACE, and BTW you people don't get to "go in," you only get to use an implement to LOOK."

Really, the whole thing is, on so many levels, so ridiculous!

Ya know, if I could take all the muscle power a uterus has, and unleash it as kick-boxing, so many bad medical things would not have happened and might never happen to anyone else!

Hmmm.... OK. Next time I let someone "go in there for a look" I think I'll first insert an old diaphragm clearly lettered: "BEWARE: ATTACK UTERUS!"

Another useful piece of verbiage to use as needed: "No, we DON'T have to do xxxx. I get to decide what we will and will not do! Tell me the medically BEST approach, and the associated risks and benefits, and then I will decide. Tell me how my coverage may or may not cover what I want, and I will decide if I want to fund my plan myself or settle for what is 'covered'!"

~Susan