I don't "eqivalence" (as you put it) any one particular violent act with another violent act.

I say that the way to break the cycle of violence is to stop attacking and stop retaliating. I do not say "stop defending".

There are many ways of attacking people. One is with a bomb. Another is with a gun, a tank, a rocket or an airplane. Another is by attacking them economically or legally in some way that worsens their lives and marginalizes them. Another is by spreading malicious talk about them and raising hatred against them. Another is by bulldozing down their houses.

The reason the Arabs attack with concealed bombs is because the Israelis have military supremacy. In such a situation, the Arab will attack in a clandestine manner, the Israeli will attack in an open and obvious manner. That's always the way it goes. The weak attack from the shadows, the strong come down main street in a tank or an airplane. Each uses the method that works best for him in order to do some significant damage to the one he thinks is the "enemy".

I am not interested in trying to decide whose way of attacking is nicer or nastier and lining them up on a comparative "evil" scale...in order to determine who the "good guys" are. The end result is the same in both cases. Many innocent people suffer and die. The real good guys are the people who leave other people alone to live in peace.

I am recommending breaking the cycle of vengeance. I would recommend the same thing in Ireland or Cyprus or Chechenya or the Balkans or in any other place where there has been a long history of hatred between communities.