The first true friend I informed was a woman I knew in collage. I have been setting her up to tell about what was going on for three months. It was a low risk move since we have been distant for the last 4 years. Early on I made her aware that I had a "secret." I finally told her the secret in late January over lunch. Last time we had lunch was before Christmas and she started spotting the changes in my appearance right away. First that my beard was gone. Next she noticed had grown my fingernails and had polish on them. (clear) She then figured out I have both ears pierced. Honesty compels me to admit I gave her a broad hint on that one. Our lunch conversation was pretty broad. That is I wasn't doing much to hide myself. She eventually looked across the table and said, "So are you planning on changing identity?" I responded "Yes." She continued on with her conversation as if she had misunderstood. Then suddenly said, "So are you and Samantha staying together?" It turns out her husband is a CD. Very closeted but dressing regularly at home.