I am not in the market anymore, but if I hadn't learned at some point that you can't design the person you want ahead of time, I would be like a few of my friends who are now in their fifties and sixties and have never really had a serious relationship because they have not found someone who fits their image of perfection. I have no patience with the idea that moderate smoking, drinking, and even occasional marijuana use (no other drugs) is a character flaw; It is instead a health issue, and one that we should be concerned about but if we don't look any deeper than that into who will be our friends and potential mates, then we're not looking deep enough and we will pass by many interesting, loving, and passionate people who could have made our lives more meaningful, but they can't because their clothes smell funny. Sorry, but it seems awfully shallow to me.

Chet