The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #15741   Message #142831
Posted By: Chet W.
30-Nov-99 - 05:35 PM
Thread Name: BS: boys won't date girls who smoke
Subject: RE: BS: boys won't date girls who smoke
Marion, Suppose someone had been in a terrible accident, say while bicycling without a helmet, and was thereafter confined to a wheelchair. Obviously their choices led directly to their health issue. And suppose further that this person had the heart of a poet, the passion of a saint, and the wisdom of the Buddha. Would they be off your list? I'm not defending tobacco or any other drug use as being a great thing, I'm just saying that when it is practiced it is not necessarily a character flaw or a "values" thing. I think that a lot of people respond to trendy public sentiment or their own insecurity or their own delicate sense of smell to eliminate people, and that's not a good enough reason for me, and it's not fair any more than it is to discriminate against people whose skin color doesn't match their sofa. Such discriminating folks would be awfully lonely in another time or place.

Chet