Little Hawk, your suggestion that women are "insecure" is rather broad. (Let's not go into the things that men are insecure about.)

If I am paying a cleaner it doesn't make sense that s/he should spend the energy and my money on going through or gathering my papers or in picking up toys. The money I am paying is for cleaning. I don't call that insecurity at all.

As for a bathroom, it is not a bad idea to swish the toilet brush around or to soak cruddy areas before you expose someone else to that stuff. That means daily attention to that kind of thing. Cleaning a bathroom on the other hand, imo, is spraying and polishing up hard surfaces while also deodorizing and disinfecting. A bathroom should sparkle.