Mary, that's a good idea, going to the OB together. I'll pass that along. ANd AMos, thanks for the positive life advice. I will be sure to pass that along too. Liz, she asked me about using the "Ooops - guess what!" method but a friend of mine did that and her spouse never got over feeling betrayed. SO I recommended against it. NOw, announcing that she is going off the pill - that seems like a reasonable compromise.

Jim, I did read past your first 3 sentences. The fact remains that you started your response with a thoughtless assumption:

"She's already married to him and they haven't reached an agreement yet about having kids? Sorry, but there's some fault on both sides about this. Whether to have kids or not is something a couple should discuss BEFORE they get married."

The fact that you added "If that isn't the case" later doesn't erase the initial mis-conception you interjected.