Kendall,

Well, yeah, obviously-- to agree or disagree with the position or the facts, or whatever. But THAT they appear to be thinking (and flexibly) often is what leads me even to listen. Rigid reactivity-- I don't have time for that, because I know from long experience that "discussing" with that mindset is like heading into a black hole. I don't find I can learn much from that mindset, either, no matter what their personal position may be.

Just my mileage.

~Susan