Ok, well because there is SO much more to the story, I just want to say that I have set my boundaries with him as far as the drinking goes. I will not try to talk to him when he is drinking, his thinking isn't clear and he talks in circles without hearing anything that is said.

I agree that he is the only one who can help himself and have shared that with him. He feels he can't do it alone. He knows that I will be here with an open ear to talk (when he is sober).

I have compiled a list of rehabs in his area and some near his family (near me too) as well as phone numbers and times for AA Meetings. He said he would go and then followed it up with an excuse as to why he couldn't. To me, that says he isn't ready.

I received a package from him in the mail yesterday, full of pictures of him. Since it's been a LONG time since we have seen one another, I will be sending out some photos of myself to him as well as the list I have made.

I think I'll give him a holler tonight just to let him know that I don't think he's a dirtbag, that I'm still here and when he wants to chat, he can call anytime..just so long as he's sober.

I appreciate the responses very much.

Thanks guys!

LF