Michelle, I know that you are a caring and responsible person and that you want to help your friend. However, you have to keep in mind that your ability to help him is very limited. Alcoholics tend to be controlling and he now has some control over you. Don't play into it. I suggest that you get in touch with someone from Alanon for advice on what you can and can not do. They're experts, while you're inexperienced in these matters. No matter what happens, don't feel guilty. You can not control him.