Guest, Not Confused, it may not be that your mate is passive-aggressive as much as he might be extremely right-brained and therefore challenged in the Organization department. I am that way. I can clean up for awhile, but things go back to Piles of Crap in a very short time. It's not because I'm trying to annoy my husband, or because I'm resentful of him in anyway --- it's simply because neatness isn't one of my skills. I have to have everything out where I can see it, or I'll forget it's there. (Several bags of vegetables have gone soggy because they were put in the crisper drawer, out of plain sight.)

I just read a great book called Organization for the Creative Person. See if your library has it, and bring it home for your husband to read. I found it very helpful, and I read parts of it to my husband as I went along.