Recently, after a good long life of 90 years, my father-in-law passed away.

In writing the obituary, with some help from her siblings, my wife decided - because of length concerns - to mention just his children by name, and leave out the names of his brothers & sisters, the grandkids and great-grandkids - some 23 people.

At the funeral one of her uncles really laid a guilt trip on her about how hurt he was that he wasn't mentioned. He complained enough that my wife put a correction in the local newspaper mentioning the rest of the siblings. I can see this is going to be a sore point in the family for a while.

My question is - what is the customary format for an obituary in your neck of the woods ?