Ahhh, Jerry, ain't love grand? That's nice... a tear in my eye. Good on ya!!! And on her, too.
Me, I not only stopped looking about a dozen years ago, I started AVOIDING about then. Pretty hard to 'find' someone that way I suppose. Not that I am complaining or bragging. I just find it much easier to not get involved, even though it's lonely. I just developed the approach, after about fourteen years in one of those loveless relationships you wrote of above, that it's better to be lonely alone than lonely with someone.