The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #81956 Message #1502458
Posted By: CarolC
16-Jun-05 - 04:41 PM
Thread Name: BS: For Real. I quit
Subject: RE: BS: For Real. I quit
Nice way to avoid personal responsibility, Joe.
My problem with you here in this thread is that you have consistantly refused to treat me like a human being. You have made me responsible for the behavior of a lot of other people, whose behavior I have no control over (the term for that is "scapegoating", by the way). You have lied about and slandered me in numerous posts in this thread. You have even accused me of nefariously manipulating my husband to do my evil bidding for me. I wouldn't care about it if you were a troll. But you are supposedly not a troll. You are supposedly a person who has authority here in the Mudcat. And you were also once my friend. And for those reasons, the way you treat me has importance.
If you tell people that I have done something (like squealing like a stuck pig and complaining about you), because of your position of authority, many of them will believe you, whether it's true or not. The fact that you are not willing to apologise for the way you have behaved shows me that you are not a friend, and that you don't consider me even worthy of being treated like a person.
So that is what, in my opinion, makes you a very poor example as a person of authority in this forum. Effective people acknowlege their mistakes and they correct them. You have not done so. You do not appear to be willing to do so.
One more thing... there is a very big difference between a troll and a bully, and there is also a very big difference in the way these two kinds of behaviors need to be handled. Until you learn the difference between these two things, people like "Martin Gibson" will continue to make your job here much more difficult than it needs to be.