RE: kids and thank you notes. We don't have alot of gifts at Christmas, but since the time my son could write, I have made a tradition of thank you letters that go along with receiving gifts. We sit together and alternate opening gifts and after each gift is revealed, the thank you note to the giver is written. We talk about the friends who sent us something and we take our time appreciating the thoughtfulness.

My birthday is near Christmas, also. My parents and family forgot my birthday when I was 16. I forgot it myself when I was 28, and several times since then. I've learned not to expect anything, and I appreciate whatever good I can experience. Singing helps. Anticipating the days getting longer helps, too. So does giving food and cheer to others.