jeez Rapaire, I didn't realize that I have not been married for for 30+ years, no one ever told us. I'll have to advise one of my little bastards not to consider herself and the prospective groom really married in two weeks time, despite the marriage ceremony and the vows they will be taking.

Then again, she may, after learning what has been said on this thread, regarding the unholiness of their union, find it preferable to think of herself too, as one of the civilly united instead.