Well, since I haven't received any apologies from a Mudcatter who did their best to be very offensive to me lately, I'll cross one guess off of the list of who might this anonymous Mudcatter be?

And since another who has done their darnedest to be as nasty as possible in the past is also posting advice to this thread, I'll take it with a large grain of salt.

No one is perfect, I certainly am not. I can get in there and duke it out with the best of them, but I have a set of rules for myself that stops at name-calling and trying to hurt feelings. Reader interpretation has worked against me in the past--the tone of voice in the head of the reader can make just about anything sound snide, if that is the inclination of the reader. But when I tangle with people who go out of their way to be really offensive or nasty, I find it a disengenuous for them to do an obsequeous "sorry!" and go on as if nothing has happened.

Once Burned, Twice Shy

I have seen a couple of Mudcatters do a real about face when it came to dealing with others, and have been pleased to see them take the mature step forward. The best advice I can offer the anonymous 'Catter is to expect those you've burned to be cautious around you for a while until they see that you really do mean to reform your act.

My final thought: apologizing anonymously carries about a tenth of the weight of signing your name, or your Mudcat moniker, to the statement. Do you really mean it? Then own up to your acts and your contrition completely. Sign on with your own name and I think you'll see that an apology goes a lot farther.

SRS