Jerry, all your posts about your wife are very moving and beautiful, as is the photo of you two. You both are very fortunate.

The way people meet each other is very mysterious. I know couples who met through both intentional means and by happy accident--if there is such a thing as accidents: through personal ads, marriages arranged by their parents, at the bus stop, at an S & M club (that particular couple isn't even into S & M), at work, on the internet--singles, folks already married to or involved with other people, or involved with people of other genders than the ones they end up with--you name it. There are people who do affirmations, rituals, light candles, "work on themselves in order to be ready" to get a mate and never meet anyone, and others who weren't looking and didn't want to meet anyone, and who answered the door in a ratty bathrobe, with a bad cold and a handful of kleenex to behold the plumber of their dreams. Mysterious.