Ebbie, you were not the worst offender in "correcting" the new person, but you were an offender.

Why should any adult, who obviously is intelligent, articulate, web savvy, knowledgeable of netiquette, etc. be chastised the way this woman was in this thread for not showing proper decorum and deference to the membership here? Why did some of you presume/suggest she hasn't done her homework, or been lurking here already? I mean, it takes a damn lot of arrogance to make these sorts of presumptions about a newcomer who is guilty of nothing more than being on-topic, polite, engaging, and interesting?

I suggest some of you wander your way back up to the top of this thread, and see what started it. A trolling guest, whom I would bet dollars to donuts is actually a member trolling as a guest, started this nasty thread. Many of the usual Mudcat xenophobe suspects got immediately touchy, and visibly bristled at Kirsten's claim she could handle the fallout of her actions as she is comfortable and at ease with paying the price of being a dynamic sort who naturally ruffles feathers.

You "this forum is MY community" regulars were condescending as hell when yo told her she had better address the forum your way, which sure sounded like a thinly veiled "or else" challenge to me.

No one, member or guest, is required to conform to your desires in their forum behavior. No one. And to presume that you have some god given right to publicly chastise ANY adult for not behaving the way you want them to, when they are actually being reasonable and perfectly polite, is just plain rude and obnoxious.