Kat, absolutely spot on this one,To quote a friend in the same vein but slightly different" What if the entire purpose of your life this time is so that you could give the words of encouragement to a person who, on receiving them is changed, and goes on to change the world, Maybe you by a simple act, triggers the change in someone else that is far reaching but of which you will have no knowledge, and your act of kindness is a force of the Universe." Friendship of this shraed knowledge kind is what keeps me here at the Mudcat and makes the it so good, no other signals to confuse just "the unreduced honesty of the words" Micca