My relationship with Joe, in his role as site admin, has varied over the years, and I would say from my view of it that this has depended on my own behavior more than anything else.

Sometimes Joe has worked with me before making a change, sometimes he has made the change and explained it privately, sometimes he has made the change and explained it in an editorial insertion, sometimes he's directed a comment at me in a thread post.

In each and every case, I would have to say it was clear that his over-riding priority was the wellbeing of all that Mudcat is to all of us-- all the somtimes-contradictory paradigms people have expressed over time, about what the nature of the site is, to them.

I would also have to say that I think Joe and I both learned how to get along pretty damn well. One reason for this, from my end, is that eventually I learned to have faith that Joe is a feeling, thinking, learning human being. I learned to remind myself that I might see his decisions differently with some hindsight, and that no single decision he makes about my stuff here is actually urgent.

Now, someone made a decision in the last 24 hours about a thread I started yesterday. When I came across it, I disagreed in my feelings, but in my head I agreed comepletely with the decision they implemented, and their explanation of it. I don't need to know who it was, or what else they were thinking or feeling. It's fine with me that they took the action they did.

I sure don't need Shambles "defending" his cause by making an attempt to spin me into the "victim" role along with him.

~Susan