Sorry to hear of your family problem Sorcha, and I'm also sorry that some of the preceding posts upset you. However having said that I will add that as it is that serious this is the wrong place to be bringing it up. Remember the judgemental posts that were made in the wake of the marriage and subsequent break up that one of our Catters went through, [can't remember her name] I've also heard derogatory remarks about the personal life of a member of this forum from another member, and they'd never even met. Folks get so critical without reason, so I wouldn't give them the ammunition to fire back at me.
Hope it all gets sorted.
Giok