Allison,

I am so sorry to hear about this and I understand perfectly that you want to talk to someone about something so shocking. However, it seems to me that this is essentially a very private tragedy. It also occurs to me that there may be legal implications to what appears to have happened to this poor child so for the sake of decency and legal propriety I feel it might be as well to leave this subject for now.

That doesn't mean I'm in any way unsympathetic - I have a child who will be 6 in a couple of months - but I don't feel that we in this forum should intrude. Sorry if that sounds callous. It isn't intended that way but the more posts we get the more likely it is that someone will say something inappropriate or just play stupid.