I would recommend two books by the same name to give you all the background you might want. Both called The Way of a Ship, one is by Alan Villiers(pub: charles scribners sons, 1953 and1970)the other by Derek Lundy (pub:Knopf Canada 2002 and in paperback by Harper Collins in 2004)
The first subtitled as: being some account of the ultimate developmentof the ocean going square rigged vessel, and the manner of her handling, hr voyage making, her personnel, her economics, her performance and her end.
The second subtitled: A square rigger voyage in the last days of sail.
Dana's books are a little early for your purpose being set around mid 19thC although much of what he says still applied to the sailing ships of the 1900-1910 era.
Incidentally I seem to remember seeing a photo somewhere of a French windjammer captain with his new wife about to set off on their Honeymoon/voyage and seem to think he was about 30 years old.However by the first decade of the 20th C the only square riggers left were built to carry bulk cargo and space for passengers would be very limited if it existed at all. I believe all passenger ships were steam driven by this time.
Hope this helps, Tarrah thisen, Malcolm