Clare, Banjer was right. You came in on a discussion between friends and announced your presence by telling everyone that they were stupid...you seem to have changed your tone as the thread went on, and even, to an extent, your earlier stance that psychology had nothing to do with healing (there have been studies on the psychological differences between those who survive and those who succumb to cancer: optimism and a fighting spirit were stronger in the survivors than in the dearly departed.

We do have a sense of humor around here (I'm amazed you haven't been humorously trashed by Catspaw yet).

--seed