I don't believe in the concept of a "one and only" soulmate that is out there waiting for you. There are dozens of potential soulmates that you could be happy with. If you are willing to do some of the work too.

To find a soulmate you have to BE a soulmate. It's been said before but don't expect an outside source to "fix" you and make you happy. You have to do it yourself. Then when you are happy in your own skin the members of the opposite sex { at least the healthy ones } will suddenly find you more interesting and attractive.

At least that was my experience. And we just celibrated our ninth wedding anniversary last week.