I hate to go on about this, but you don't say who the new quote is from, it too is not the Dalai Lama. The statement you earlier quoted speaks of the idealization of romantic love and the endless pursuit of romantic love, which are what is referred to as "it" in the last sentence. That is what the Dalai Lama seems to be opposed to, not romantic love per se. Buddhists are against obsessive fantasies of all kinds, from paranoia to sexual obsession to spiritual fantasies, they need to be seen as what they are, attempts to find a false stability outside oneself or in some vast inflation of the ego. Clear-eyed understanding of the other person who is cherished for themselves is not opposed to romantic love, in the Buddhist tradition (well, at least at the lay level, lay in the sense of layman (joke)).

yours,

Peter T.