She gave me to wonderful boys whom I love and respect as I do her for being thier mom !! Respecting a person you have made good and bad choices with makes a person grow instead of shink . I am sorry my first wife dose not like me much but there are reasons people dont " fit " and those can show up more as devorse comes on and then the years go by .. I have been a very lucky person . I am thankful that my first wife had the bravery to show me that we didnt have to stay in pain and together. She is happy now as am I !!! So I guess the third gift after the 2 boys is she gave me the chance to find the right marrage . All the best to all here. Guy