I like this thread no bitter recriminations a very balanced and positive outlook.

I thoroughly dislike my ex - can't see how I ever managed to survive with her (well my 2nd ex & my kids mum) but as I say to the kids - I loved her once and she loves them so it aint all bad.

Now I have the CSA off my back - at last I can begin to enjoy life - sadly she is very bitter and apparently talks (with her mum and other relatives) about what an arse I am and what I am doing now and why I am stupid and should not be doing that. The kids fortunately point out that this is their Dad which apparently stops the discussions dead. It is a shame she can't read what has been said before in this thread, it makes you right warm inside to hear these stories.

My other ex's are all fine (one wife and two live in ladies) we all get on well and are great pals. Praps that is all we ever should have been.

I think we all learned form the experience and are better people for it - but could have done without all the angst.

Phew don't I go on - praps thats the bit I've not learned!!!!

Andy