Jerry's spot on, as he so often is. Focusing on the bad acts received from another is a sure path to lunacy. Every step of my previous marriage was my own responsibility right up to the end of it, or them, depending on how you count. There are a million things I could have done to shift their directions and steer them toward other outcomes.

But, ya know what? I am delighted with the outcome I did steer toward. We're 26 years strong now, and still surprised and delighted every week at how well we suit.

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