Laura, maybe people aren't exactly missing your point, but taking the opening you gave to make a point of their own?

Are you in the UK? In the US, the laws are already set up to address your concern. There still need to be victims' advocates to be sure the laws, and not the stereotypes, are followed-- but there has been much progress. You might find more info about this from Catters if you started a new thread titled "Rape Laws & Horror Stories" or something similar. Your present thread title doesn't let folks know what you want to talk about.

~Susan