Hmm... In my first marriage, I made breakfast and packed the lunches for our sons and got them off to school. When I came home from work, more often than not, no dinner was being prepared and I made dinner. I also did all the laundry, because my ex-wife didn't like lugging a heavy laundry basket down stairs to the cellar. I often ended up doing the dishes too, and cleaned the diaper pail when the kids were little. This happened for two reasons. Firstly, I lived on my own for many years and those were things I was used to doing and didn't mind (except for the diaper pail.) Secondly, my ex-wife had serious psychiatric issues that became more extreme rather than improved in marriage.

Now I have a marriage far more beautiful than any I could ever have imagined, let alone hoped for. I still enjoy doing much of the cooking, although my wife is a wonderful cook and is very willing to cook. We share the cooking and both enjoy taking care of each other.
I still help out on some household chores because I love to do things for my wife. In turn, she comes out and helps me rake leaves, weed the flower beds and do general outside work because she loves to be with me and help me. I help her do the decorating projects that she designs but has trouble fabricating, and she is always there with me whenever I perform or visit the sick. We never think of a division of labor, or which work is a woman's or a man's.
If the work needs doing, whoever has the energy or the time does it.
It is our work and we do it together, joyfully.

In my Father's generation there was a clear distinction between the man's work being everything outside and all houshold repairs, and the women's work being cleaning, laundry, cooking and taking care of the kids. In a way, that made sense because most women were in the home and not working (although my Mother worked.) It doesn't make sense any more, but people resist change. Just as my Father would never consider doing the dishes, he never would have allowed my mother to change the oil in the car, or spade the garden in the spring.

Every marriage has to find it's own balance of responsibilities. If it is arrived at through mutual love and concern for each other rather than selfishness, there is no "man's" work or "women's" work. It's all "our" work.

Jerry