I wish you good luck! I have little experience with having to go through all the unfortunate above gyrations as
the maker of my hairy bodhran reccomends that one does NOT use bodhran wax or anything else on his hairy goatskins, as they are quite thick & very well tunable. However-if one just has to use something on, perhaps a thin skinned non tunable head, try using only bodhran wax which is designed for use on a bodhran so it will do no harm.