Been apart from my wife for two and a half years now and well over it. I have achieved more in the last eighteen months than I have for many years. People get over things in their own time and dependent on circumstances....some never get over things as they live through their past each day. My suggestion is:- If it is truly over.....move on and plan all manner of things for you to do...it works! I still spend time with women occasionally but only as friends. Who knows...one day maybe!
Best wishes, Mike.