The problem is you have the female, familial, focus.

For most males, the realtionship ended months, even years before.

Give those powered by testosrone two hours, two beers, and a pretty face then all your bitchy-ness, coulda-woulda-shoulda-oughtas, disolve into dust.

Read Doctor Laura's book and you will quickly discover what your mother never taught you.

Woman is monosterous

Man is polyonomous

It is a wonder...we are not all bigamists. (author un-remembered)