When my marriage broke up, after the shock, grief and anger it took about three years to feel normal again.

My second long term relationship lasted another 14 years. He was a kind and talented man, but finally I called it to a halt because of some fundamental incompatabilities that emerged. I cried myself to sleep every night for a month, and then had a short, stupid affair. It certainly helped get over it, and also helped me decide to get used to being alone. I have been alone for six years now, and have a happy and productive life.

I am still good friends with my man of 14 years, and we help each other out in need.