The thing that has gone wrong is that there is a community as opposed to a bunch of strangers posting on a common topic. There are spats within communities, and personality conflicts, and people sometimes don't treat each other with the common decency they would treat strangers. I personally love the community, but I think we sometimes take each other for granted.
The BS argument has been going on for ages and never solves anything, just gets more bitter. It's like the "what is folk" argument, only more personal. In both cases, it involves individuals trying to make something be the way they want it. It has no effect other than to create frustration, anger and yes, bitterness. What will be, will be.