Thank the powers that I have never been in serious danger of forcible rape- although I once left a car to walk home.

That disclaimer aside, I obviously miss something when I say that I don't understand anyone who says or feels that a woman does not invite certain behaviors in response to certain stimuli.

I remember once getting into a long philosophical conversation with a platonic friend late at night alone with him in my own home - about sex, of all things.   Trust me, I did NOT see him to the door!

Forcible rather than consensual sex to me are two different animals. Had I (I did NOT) got myself deeper than I wished to with my friend and found myself fighting him in an ultimately futile attempt at resistance, I would definitely have accepted my share of the blame. It does not mean, depending on the eventual circumstance, that I would not have considered bringing charges against him.

Rape from an intruder or a gang or via pills in my mind is cause for extreme action. If someone were attacking me and someone else came along and killed him/them I would not feel it was too extreme an action. Note that I do not mean that rape should be a capital punishment.

I'm afraid that I also believe that men and boys are being given wildly mixed messages today. Women and girls may be as sexual beings as the male of the species but, imo, we express it differently. How many women do you know would continue with the sex act when someone unexpectedly walked into the room? (I once made my lover laugh helplessly when I heard a noise outside the door and literally bounced him off me. So now you know...*G*) Men, on the other hand, may develop a serious case of singlemindedness.

How many women and girls do you know who consider droopy drawers with the crotch down to the knees a turn on? How many men and boys, on the other hand, do NOT find female skin, fetchingly draped, delectable? And I don't buy it that women and girls are not aware of the male reaction- just take a look at the change in their attire when they visit the elderly.*G*

Sometimes it seems to me that men are actually more civilized than women are- they have farther to travel!