The twins' father went into the hospital last week with pneumonia and was found to have large-cell cancer in his right lung invading all three lobes (which is how he got pneumonia, one collapsed) and at least 2 tumors in his brain. They have moved him to UVA neuro (where our eldest niece died 5 years ago but not because of anything that most excellent center did wrong) and are doing more diagnostic tests there, but we don't have those results yet.
The twins are 10 now and haven't lived with their dad since they were 2, but they did spend a lot of weekends together so there has been constant contact. Any help with the realities of the parental situation here would be greatly appreciated but, and please do not be offended, I would prefer not to be proffered supernatural solutions although of course you are free to beseech your imaginary friends for help.
Thank you all.
I'm glad you're here.