Mrrzy, as you can see, we're all here to lend you strangth and anything else that we can send to you.

In addition to Bobert's experience and sound advice, I would also like to see what Spaw has to say. I know that he and Karen have taken in foster children and judging by my own family's experience, some of these kids have had recent and devastating losses. I'm sure he has observations and ideas on what your boys can expect and how to deal with it.

I agree with Bobert about Hospice- since they are not on board focusing on the patient's recovery, they are free to devote their energies to providing comfort and just being there. My brother and my sister both had positive experience with them.

They may also have experience and advice for your kids or at least be able to direct them to the help they need.

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Ebbie