GUEST, the question might be, what exactly does this person need in the way of a wheelchair accessible bathroom? If it's just entrance to the bathroom itself, the width of a standard wheelchair is about 24", so a 36" doorway should be adequate. Actually, I've slithered through 28" doorways, watching carefully to make sure I didn't bark my knuckles or bash an elbow. But turning 90^o from a narrow hallway into a narrow door isn't going to work. Has something to do with turning radii and hypotenuses and such.

My own bathroom is quite small, so to use the toilet, I have to back in, lock my wheelchair wheels, then turn myself 90^o as I lift myself to the toilet (equipped with one of those raised plastic seats to match the height of the wheelchair). The washbowl is right next to the toilet. If I'm going to use the shower or tub, I have to come in forward, then lift myself onto a bath stool, also turning 90^o as I do so. The bathroom is small enough so that I can't pull in parallel to either the toilet or the tub. As it was, when we moved in, we had to replace the fixtures that were there just on general principles. But as far as size and general layout was concerned, there was little choice, other than an expensive rebuilding of the whole thing, including knocking out a wall, which was not a choice! So I had a few modifications made, such as having grab-bars installed at strategic locations. Other than that, I made do with what was available.

If the woman was willing to, maybe she could come over and look at your bathroom (dry run, so to speak) and see if it would work for her. Then, if she wanted to attend concerts at your place regularly, and if you were willing and it didn't cost a fortune, you could possibly check into something like installing a secure grab-bar or two (able bodied people find them handy too—but caution:   towel rods do not make good grab bars; much too fragile and pull out of the wall too easily) and perhaps get a raised seat. Guardian and Rubbermaid make them—the ones with the locking mechanism are safest—and they only take a minute or two to install and remove.

If nothing else, this would convince her that you're trying, and at least willing to work with her. She could hardly complain about that.

Just a suggestion, for what it's worth.

Don Firth