Amos,
I agree with you that to "identify the moment with X......" is or can be lethal to intellect and soul. That is the reason I said that you must get past the irrational and use the prejudices that serve you.

My situation as a young man required me to make decisions that I was intellectually unable to make. I was abandoned at age 12 and lived pretty much by my wits until I matured. I made lots of judgements with no help and no tools to work with. I managed to stay out of 'the system' by making decisions based on prejudices I acquired very quickly. My natural reaction to authority figures was distrust and fear. As an adult I let that go. It no longer served me. There were many things that set off alarms for me as a kid on his own. Maturity quieted them. I am thankful that reason prevailed for me. I pity those that won't or can't take the time for introspection.