Not a bad point there, Clinton...that's what I do too in real physical life, but this is a disembodied yakking forum, which is a bit different.
I'm as opinionated as the next guy, Jerry, but I usually try to look at both sides in a debate. I find that most people just don't do that at all. They never even think of it. (They figure there's only 1 right side and they are ON it!)
I occasionally play devil's advocate, just to broaden the possibilities of a discussion. Martin does that sometimes too, I think. I usually manage to maintain a sense of humour...even as regards myself. That can help to de-polarize things quite a bit.