This is a spin-off from another thread.

My case is pretty typical. I was a damn good wife for decades. In my case my man wanted money. So I worked really hard and built up a great business. I lived as though we were poor, because he wanted to save and save, to buy more land, to build, to make more money. And so on. Many women do something similar to bring uop the kids.

When I was tired of this way of life, I told him. I hung on for another good few years, then went.

As soon as I went he got a new girlfriend and spent all sorts of money on her. Big style ! Nobody could believe it becuase he had been so mean with me. Then another girlfriend, and more money.

So what's the deal ? Yeah, he is 40. Is that the reason ? I did what I thought made him happy and got little back in return. In fact, the new girlfriends are getting the profits of my work back in return. ( No, we didn't have a 50 / 50 settlement. Yes, call me a mug once again!)