I just posted to the other thread... I think they should be combined.

So... you got tired of your life with him an "went". And now, he is spending $ on women. Well, I should think that the poor lad would. He is desparate not to lose the next one. After all, you left, after decades (ah, 40 years old minus decades = ah, wha???), because he was frugal while trying to build a comfortable and secure nest with you. I assume he is insecure and terribly hurt... bewildered about why you would leave him after you both sacrificed so much for so long for the nest.

You said "(No, we didn't have a 50 / 50 settlement. Yes, call me a mug once again!)" Ah... on the other thread you said you still have things to sort out so there has to be contact.

In the immortal words of Foghorn Leghorn, "Somethin' just don't add up."