The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #88930 Message #1674743
Posted By: Jeri
21-Feb-06 - 09:13 AM
Thread Name: BS: The Decency of the 'Cat (Part II)
Subject: RE: BS: The Decency of the 'Cat (Part II)
Roger, no. These were private conversations and his opinions changed depending on circumstances. They can't change anymore, and one opinion, from one specific point in time, is irrelevent today.
Rick frequently liked to prod people out of their comfort zones, out of ruts and off on scary, but exciting, new paths. This almost always involved some disagreement/resistance.
It's hard to find a friend/teacher/mentor/whatever that can get you to question what you believe. It's taking a risk that you'll get so upset you won't speak to them anymore. People who want you to see another point of view on the 'Cat usually take an adversarial position. Who's going to try to walk a mile in their little cloven-hoofed booties? When folks set themselves up as the enemy, most people don't really try to understand their point of view.
The best debates on Mudcat happen when people who recognize the good in each other disagree, but respect each other and try to see each other's point of view. Insults and attempted virtual bitch slaps are not points of view. I know why people react. I wish they resisted the temptation once in a while and insist that folks stick to the subject before they'll reply. I also would like a million dollars and a pony.