GUEST 23 Feb 06 - 01:42 PM

So if a person is "bent out of shape" she or he must in their emotionally vunerable condition take on the responsibility of confronting the person whose actions bent her or him out of shape while other people who are not bent out of shape keep on keepin on Is that how it goes?

I appreciate the fact that you have provided me with one more response that I could have taken and maybe should/would if I can which I feel more capable of doing now than then. However, if I contact the poster of that cut & paste joke, it will be nobody's business but him and me.

As to me dehumanizing Tarheel because-prior to now-I did not name him as the poster of that joke, your saying that sounds to me like "blaming the victim of dehumanization for failing to be considerate of the person who dehumanized them. On a much lesser scale, this is like Whittington saying he is sorry to Cheney for shooting him in the face.

But then again, while that "joke" may have seemed minor to others, it was a straw that broke the camel's back moment- for me. It's not just one thing but the cumulative effect of many things.

And I'm sure you won't mind if I feel that being an adult or not has nothing to do with how I responded to what for me was a crisis.

I am not going to apologize for asking the community that I joined to help me work through this crisis. I believe that I had the right to do so, partly because while it was personal, imo, what I perceived and still perceive as a racist joke, should have impacted folks here regardless of race.

That's all I have to say to you at this time Guest. If you want to talk to me more, you can PM me.