While I am sympathetic to you that you had a traumatic day and I know those days well myself, I still believe you have dehumanized poor racist or foolish tarheel by not speaking directly to him as a human being. Yes, he did it first. But, so what? Not naming him is not virtuous, it is avoidant. We all know who you mean. You didn't say anything about what the crisis was, just the straw that broke your back. And I'm not looking for an apology, just saying what I think about this thread and it's precipitator.

Instead you got self- righteous about so many people ignoring his post and then admittedly started an interesting discussion. HOWEVER, I still think you are mishandling this. You did get at least one person to jump up and say they were going to stop playing music with him because of his politics.(pretty foolish response in my view) that will not enlighten him. A personal response from you might. And, I'm not going to PM you because you made this a public issue and I'm keeping it that way. You better toughen up, if you want to play in this sandbox. I'm not used to whiney black girls where I come from or where I am living now. and that's that. I like you but I think you
pull the same thing a lot of girls (women) here do, which is run to daddy and get everybody's support to make your case. I hate that.

motor city mama